Saturday, August 30, 2008

MATT AND DARCIE

Thank you all so much for your prayers and good wishes. I am so thankful to report that both Matt and Darcie are well on their way to restored health.

Matt was able to leave the hospital on Thursday night. He has salmonella poisoning and is on antibiotics. He does not have Crohn's disease.

Darcie is expected to leave the hospital within the next few days. She is recovering well and is also on antibiotics.

On a semi-related note, my hubby is unbelievably sweet. One morning this week, while I was at the hospital with Matt, I mentioned to a visiting friend that I would like to get an Ipod Shuffle for my workout music. I joked that I would be a much better runner, if only had a Shuffle. Matt was on morphine during this conversation and slept through the whole visit.

Fast forward two days. He is finally back at home, and we are preparing to go to bed. I crawl into my side of the bed and am surprised to see a gift bag on my pillow. Inside, I find an Ipod Shuffle and a note that says "Thanks for being a strong mother and an amazing wife when I am not here! I love that I can trust you with everything..."

I tell you, that man is too good to me. And of course, that note meant waaaay more than that ipod ever could! I am just amazed that he even heard (much less remembered!) me talking about it, as drugged up as he was. And the fact that he left the hospital and went to the store, feeling like he did! That man is a keeper. :)
SADNESS...AND A NEW CHALLENGE

Unbelievably, the Discount Food Store is closing next week. I can't believe it. This store has been a lifesaver for my grocery budget over the last year and I am really disappointed that it is closing.

But, the closing of the store is a great impetus for a new challenge. Mary at Owlhaven is doing another 30 Days of Nothing for the month of September. She is starting with a stocked pantry, and a large garden, and hopes to spend no more than $200 on groceries in September...for her family of 12. Wow.

Since my Shop Local Challenge a year ago, I have routinely spent about $200 a month on groceries for our famly of 5, relying heavily on the discount food store.

With the Discount Food Store closing, and food costs reaching unprecedented heights, it is going to be quite the challenge to keep my grocery costs within the $200 a month range. But, you know I am a sucker for a challenge!

So, for the next 30 days, I will be challenging myself to feed my family of five for around $200 a month, or $50 a week. The main objective is to supply my family with nutritious and fresh food on a budget. I will be documenting what I purchase each week, and how much I spend. Additionally, I will documenting our weekly menus, including snacks.

What falls into the grocery category? Well, obviously, all food items. Additionally, all paper goods, home goods (light bulbs, trash bags, cleaning supplies, etc), and body care items (shampoo, conditioner, razors).

Now, I do have one caveat: items that my husband buys without my sanction do not count toward my grocery budget. So, if I ask him to run by the store for me, then those items will count toward my grocery budget. However, if he decides to stop and pick up ten boxes of Sour Patch Kids on the way home from work, then I am not counting that in my total for the month.

Additionally, I did not decide to do this until today. My pantry is not well stocked. I have not been stockpiling groceries to see me through September. What I spend in September is an accurate, feasible budget for our family. I have no idea whether I will be able to cook well for our family and friends on this budget. I may go way over. I may not. That is what makes this interesting. Plus, it is a great way to be reminded of the abundance that we enjoy every day. Even with cutting way back, and being more frugal with our grocery spending this month, we still have much, much more than we need. It is good to be reminded of this.

So, what about you? Want to join me? Set your own budget, your own guidelines. Choose another area of spending entirely. It could be eye-opening. Check it out...30 days of nothing.

Tuesday, August 26, 2008

PRAYER REQUEST
---UPDATE BELOW---

My hubby and my nine year old sister are both in the hospital, four doors apart.

Darcie is having her appendix out at five, just like Madeline. They think it may have ruptured yesterday. She is in a great deal of pain, and is terrified, as this is her first stint in the hospital/surgery.

We still aren't 100% sure what is wrong with Matt. We know he has colitis, which we suspect was brought on by salmonella poisoning. Out of our group of thirty in Jamaica, nearly half became sick at some point, and five are in the hospital now. We have narrowed it down to the jerk chicken that was served at the farewell reception at the beach. We are waiting on one final test to confirm that it is salmonella poisoning, but feel pretty sure that is what ails him.

I covet your prayers for our family.

I have many posts rolling around in my head, but they will have to wait for another day!

Darcie's surgery ended up being twice as long as had been expected. It was supposed to be a laparoscopy, but once they started, realized the rupture was very severe, and had to make a large incision. They found her internal organs covered up with infection, as well as a lot of fluid around her reproductive organs. Thankfully, we have a family friend that is an OB/GYN and he ended up assisting with that aspect of the surgery. Darcie is recovering now and will have to stay at the hospital for at least a week. Mom is beating herself up for not taking her to the hospital sooner, though our pediatrician assures us that there was no reason she would have. All the symptoms Darcie had were similar to a common virus, and she had seemed to be getting better. In fact, the Dr. said that when she started feeling better was probably when the appendix ruptured. We are all a little shaken up by how dangerous this ended up being...and she isn't out of the woods yet.

As for Matt, he still has a fever of 103 degrees, even after being in the hospital on morphine and two kinds of antibiotics since last night. They have identified the pain on his right side as being from the colitis and salmonella poisoning (his upper and lower intestines are infected). He is also having pain on his left side and that is what they are having trouble pin-pointing. They also have not ruled out the possibility that he has Crohn's Disease. So, he won't be going home in the morning, or probably even tomorrow, for that matter.

Even in the midst of difficulty, however, there are always beautiful gifts that leave me feeling humbled and so, so grateful. The support of our friends and the care and compassion they show us is truly astounding. My phone has rang off the hook today (not to mention blog comments, facebook messages, and emails) from friends all over, offering kind words, gifts of food, willingness to help with the boys, and visits by many at the hospital. The joy that comes from living in community is so heightened during times like these and I am so thankful. I am sure this will warrant a post of it's own at a later time. For now though, my sister-in-law and brother are at the door, spending the night here with the boys, so I can go be with Matt, and to relieve Mom.

Friday, August 22, 2008

JAMAICA!I can't believe I am really, truly in Jamaica! I am sitting in my room this morning, my hubby just left for a round of golf, and I am experiencing relaxation and leisure in a way previously unknown to me. Our suite has a patio that overlooks the sea, clear and blue.

Last night, at the welcome jerk reception on the beach (with flame throwers, beach drums, and men on stilts saying "no worries, mon! You are in Jamaica, Mon!"), there were security on the outskirts of the party. When I asked about it later, I was informed that Jamaica is very dangerous, and we should not leave the resort under any circumstances, unless it was a planned, guided event. Our bus driver said that the minimum wage here is US $50 a week. As we drove here from the airport, it was plain to see, by the houses on the side of the road, that many of the people here in Jamaica are very poor. I wonder how they view people like me...these americans, coming to vacation in luxury. Are they happy to see us, knowing that we will spend money? Or do they harbor a veiled contempt for us? I wonder. I verbalized this to Matt yesterday. This trip is absolutely blissful and I am so, so thankful to be able to enjoy it. But I do feel little twinges of something. Guilt, maybe? It just seems so wrong, to have so much, especially when surrounded by poverty on all sides.

But it is like this at home too, isn't it? There are people all around me, struggling to make ends meet, to provide for their families. Even just a few streets from my house, people live without air conditioning, are on welfare, live under the poverty level. Maybe it is just the stark contrast of it here, that makes me think about it more. I don't live like this at home, obviously. I don't lounge around under an umbrella with a drink in my hand on a daily basis. Too, at home, I am distracted. I am taking care of my children, our home. Important things. The most important things for me to be taking care of. But there are other things too...other people, that are in need, around me. But sometimes is takes a caribbean vacation to see them.


Other thoughts, of a different nature, of our time in Jamaica, here.

*creative commons image from gailf548 on flickr.com

Tuesday, August 19, 2008

CHECK OUT MY FRIEND, JENNY!My dear childhood friend (actually, the very oldest friend I have. Friends since birth. Literally.) Jenny, is now a fabulous, creative, inspiring photographer. And, she has the opportunity to win an incredible prize/experience. Will you please check out Scarlett Lillian today and vote? Lots of fun eye candy and creativity on that site! We are rooting for you, Jenny! Also, you can check out more of Jenny's work at her blog and her website!

Friday, August 01, 2008

OUT OF TOWN...

We are heading back to the beach for this next week. The house we are staying in doesn't have internet, but I am hoping to steal away to a coffee shop a couple of times, and finish up my Bringing the Beach Home Series.
I am hoping to spend lots of fun time with the boys, playing in the sun and sand, as well as spend a few hours running on the beach, praying, planning for our fall, and catching up on lots of reading.
I hope you have a wonderful week!

Thursday, July 31, 2008

THE PLEASURES OF HOME Our master bathroom
Stay, stay at home, my heart, and rest;
Home-keeping hearts are happiest,
For those that wander they know not where
Are full of trouble and full of care;
To stay at home is best.

Weary and homesick and distressed,
They wander east, they wander west,
And are baffled and beaten and blown about
By the winds of the wilderness of doubt;
To stay at home is best.

Then stay at home, my heart, and rest;
The bird is safest in its nest;
O'er all that flutter their wings and fly
A hawk is hovering in the sky;
To stay at home is best.

-Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

Every now and then, my husband will suggest that I take the night off and go get coffee, or a pedicure, or see a movie. Occasionally, I take him up on it, but usually, after thinking long and hard for a few moments, can't think of anywhere that I would rather be than home. I love it here. This house resonates with me in a deep way. Nearly every night, I sigh contentedly to Matt, "I LOVE this place".

Sometimes, I wish that it didn't have such a hold on me. When Matt mentions selling everything and moving to NYC, I immediately think, "but what of our families? And my HOUSE?!" We have lived in several homes, since we were marred almost eight years ago. Six, actually. I have loved several of them. The farmhouse with the huge kitchen and the claw foot tub. I cried when I drove away from that house for the last time. After all, I had brought my first baby home to that house. And, we had put a lot of sweat and work into that house. But this house, well, this house is even more to me than that one.

I am a cottage lover. I don't care much for pretentious homes. Though I might admire them for what they are, I have no desire to own one.
I want a simple home. I like a lot of uncluttered space for my eyes to rest. And I want the utilitarian to also be beautiful. Sometimes it is hard to articulate, what this adds to life. It brings a weighty, earthiness to my days. My mother was eating a salad out of a wooden bowl yesterday, and even that, she commented, added a significance to the meal. It feels connected, real. Do you know what I am saying?

When the tools that we use in our day to day lives are as beautiful as they are functional, they become art. A bowl of fresh cherries, in an earthenware bowl are a sensory delight. A wooden brush, a linen skirt, a metal bucket...all elements that bring a deep richness to the quotidian. Do you think so?

These things, of course, do not make a home. There are so many other, more important elements, that make up the place that we call home. But these little grace notes are a tangible element that enrich my life immensely. Just a few that come to mind...

-home made soap
-grandmother's quilts
-wooden spoons
-cast iron skillets
-pottery mug
-100% cotton sheets
-mason jars
-old books
-feather pillows
-enamelware dishes
-sisal rugs
-cloth (esp. hemp) diapers
-wicker picnic basket
-paper organizer (instead of a PDA)

What are some of yours?

Tuesday, July 29, 2008

WHEN IS HOMEMADE NOT BETTER?The produce stand had cooking tomatoes (tomatoes with some blemishes). 25 pounds for $5. Quite the deal. I bought 50 pounds. I immediately came home and began chopping the tomatoes, and throwing them in a big pot with fresh basil from my yard, whole cloves of garlic, olive oil, and a sprinkling of sea salt and pepper. I LOVE homemade pasta sauce. I spent most of the afternoon on Saturday making it. Sunday night was spent with Mom, pouring it into jars, then placing them in the hot water bath.

35 pounds of tomatoes (I didn't do them all the same day) translated into only 10 quarts of sauce. For six hours of work. That comes out to just over 30 minutes of my time per jar.
I can often find this pasta sauce at the discount food store for $1 a jar. Exact same ingredients. Nearly the same taste.

So, I wonder...when does the pleasure and satisfaction of making something yourself, with your own ingredients, become over shadowed by the cost and time factor? I don't know the answer, but I will say, when I look at my jars of sauce in the pantry, my feelings are bittersweet.


*Creative commons image from jacki-dee on flickr.com

Monday, July 21, 2008

OTHER BLOG

I am posting again at my other blog, An Apple A Day, about my weight loss.

Thursday, July 17, 2008

SIMPLE SUMMER SUPPERAfter a late afternoon of visiting a friend and her new baby, and stopping in to see my mom at her art gallery,
I returned home to four hungry guys
and no plan.

I quickly perused the fridge to see what vegetables were the ripest and needed to be used first:
tomatoes, squash, plums.

A healthy summer dinner quickly fell in to place.

A simple sauce of fresh tomatoes (a gift from a friend),
basil and oregano from my yard,
fresh garlic, sea salt, and fresh ground pepper.
I had squash (also from a friend) that were about to go bad, so I sliced them thinly and added them to the sauce.
The kids barely noticed them, and it was a great way to sneak in another vegetable.
Cost of sauce: approximately $0.50

The sauce was spooned over whole wheat penne pasta that I purchased at the Discount Food store for $0.65.
I used half a box (which left plenty for lunch tomorrow).
Cost of 1/2 box of pasta: $0.32

A jar of green beans, canned by my mother a few weeks ago.
The green beans were a gift from a farmer to my dad.
I added a pat of butter, sea salt, pepper, and 1 chicken bouillon cube (from the discount food store).
Cost of green beans: approximately $0.50.

A few pieces of bakery bread,
out of the freezer and spread with a mixture of softened butter and block parmesan, grated.
These went under the broiler until toasty.
Cost of toast: approximately $1.00

Finally,
for dessert,
a big bowl of plums,
sweet and juicy.
I think I paid about $2 for them.

The total cost of the meal was under $5.

It was a simple meal, nothing fancy.
But, it was filling and delicious and full of fresh vegetables.
It is a meal that I wouldn't have been embarrassed to serve to company.
That is something I have been thinking about lately.
I don't want to serve my family foods that I wouldn't serve to company.
I want every meal to be delicious enough that I would be happy to serve it to any guests.
My family is as important as anyone that could grace our table, and I want them to feel that in the foods that I serve for them.

I am also a firm believer in using the best ingredients available.
Simple upgrades often don't cost a lot more, but make a big difference in the taste quality of the food.
Fresh herbs instead of dried,
fresh garlic,
sea salt instead of table salt,
fresh ground peppercorns instead of ground pepper,
good quality block parmesan instead of pre-shredded in a bag,
and vegetables from the garden made this meal not only delicious,
but also a delight to prepare.

I love the smell of the fresh basil,
as I slice it under my fingertips.

I love to stir the tomatoes,
simmering in my cast iron skillet,
favorite wooden spoon in hand.

I love to see the happy faces of hungry boys,
when I carry in steaming plates of food.

Sacred in the ordinary.

Cooking for our families can be a pleasure-full,
joyful act of service to our families,
even when crunched for time and on a small budget.

*Creative Commons image from VirtualErn on flickr.com